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I Quit Sugar – 19th November 2013

Posted by on Nov 19, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

So I’ve been off sugar for 4 weeks now. I decided to go off sugar in January 2013. Yes, 10 month ago. That lasted for about two weeks. Okay, maybe 1 and a half. I remember I was so proud of myself at the caravan when I bypassed the chocolate blocks in the fridge or passed up the offer of an ice cream. Like I said, that lasted about 1 and a half weeks. This time I’m a lot more serious. I think I started back a month ago because I noticed that sometimes after eating chocolate I would feel nauseous. Not all the time. And I can’t pin it to anything specific, but I found myself not finishing off a really rich dessert that I use to breathe in without any trouble at all. It was like my body was rebelling or something. I also noticed that I was getting fat. Or, more than fat, I was getting that dimpled Demi Moore look on my legs and the backs of my arms. Not pretty. Poor, Demi. I feel bad for her that one photo should have meant so much, but hey, she got fit out of it! Anyway. I’m 45. This is as good as it’s going to get an it’s still a surprise to look in the mirror and see the older version of myself. The older version that looks freakishly like my mother. And I don’t want to end up as boxy (sorry mum) or as unfit as my mother. So I’m combining a lack of sugar with boot camp twice a week. Boot camp was supposed to inspire a few more days of self-motivated exercise but I’ve successfully resisted that so far. But not for much longer. So. I am following Sarah Wilson’s eight week quit plan. It’s not that awe-inspiring or “new” but for $15 I have a “friend” or “bible” to consult when I’m at a low ebb. Like now. I’ve had a cheese wholemeal roll for lunch (not that exciting today) and a raw carrot. Now I have a cup of tea next to me and a small bowl of pistachios. The pistachios help the cravings a lot. It must be the salt. Not that I’ve had a huge amount of cravings. But I’ve had some. And I think I’m having more. Which is where the $15 “friend” comes in handy. I read the 4 week chapter before and skipped ahead to week 5. She mentions that the cravings are normal. Which was good to know because I thought they’d be worse in the first three weeks and would start to taper off. Instead, I think my body thought we were playing pretend or something and it’s now “really” wanting sugar. Cake. Chocolate. Slice. It’s not fussy really. Thankfully there’s nothing in the house really…. well, I could find something but I’m trying to be strong. I’m very determined when I want to be an so far I don’t look that much better to warrant a day off the wagon. I don’t know that I feel that much better either. Which is the first question people ask me. How do you feeeeeel? Not much different, sadly. I thought maybe I’ bounce out of bed with loads of energy to burn.  I think...

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Parenting – 16th July 2013

Posted by on Jul 16, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

Being a parent of three kids, parenting is one of my pet topics. As I think it must be for most parents. Last night we had a talk at our school from a Rudulph Steiner trained pediatrician, Dr Lakshmi, and it was fascinating. I am paraphrasing her advice – of course – so any errors are mine! Her discussion was mainly on the child around ages 7-8 but it encompasses kids from 7-14 and focused on how we, the parents, are the ones who take this journey more than our kids. And how we can enjoy this journey as much as possible.  She says not to get involved in their dramas or problems but to just listen to them. Sometimes not to even answer them directly. Just to murmur ‘hmmm’ or nod or say ‘that’s interesting’ or ‘oh’ or ‘I don’t know’ or whatever rather than getting into a discussion. She says when you engage in a discussion you are coming from your head (the intellect) and kids need us to come from our heart. During this time she says the growth of our kids is noticable in the torso and this is because they are in this space of the heart more than anywhere else. (From 0-7 they are in the will stage. Everything is physical. And from around 14 they are in the intellect stage. The head.) She says that while we listen to our children that we should make sure we are engaged in the process of our daily lives. So preparing dinner, doing the bath, bedtime etc… She says to always come back to the process of our routine as this is reassuring for the young child.  She said that the heart phase is all about relationships and how they relate to the world. Engaging in explanations about things is all in the head and they don’t need it or really want it. When we take them out of the heart space by describing/explaining things we detract from their imagination.  So today in the car my 7 year old got angry because I picked up my new reading gamecommaration glasses and he has been wanting new runners for ages. Previously I would have explained why he couldn’t have them, when he might have them etc etc… this then, Lakshmi would say, invites discourse from the child who is not thinking with a rational/adult brain and why often these discussions end in an argument. So in the car I just listened and I think I said, ‘I know’ and ‘hmmm’ and before long he was onto another topic. And again tonight in bed he was winding himself up about something and when I just listened it went nowhere and he just let it go. He just wanted to talk. Dr Lakshmi said to always be honest though in the sense that if you do not know something then just to say “I don”t know”.  Dr Lakshmi said often at this age (7-8) it is all about comparisons in the negative. So instead of looking at how they are the same they look at how they are different. And how everything around them is different. They want to compare everything. It’s a time of duality and can be very frustrating for the parents. Hence with the shoes my youngest compared him not getting something...

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Dispicable Me 2 – Movie Review and general rant – 5th July

Posted by on Jul 4, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

It”s not often that I am motivated enough to write a moview review. It has to be super good or extremely bad and Dispicable Me 2 falls off the bad end of the scale in a major way. My biggest issue with this movie is that it is an adults film masquerading as a kids film. And the trailer I saw was misleading. It only had the minions involved and nothing about the adult story line. There are so many things wrong with this movie I”ll try to be legible! This movie is about Gru, a criminal who has turned good and adopted three girls (I didn”t see the previous film) and is trying to be good. He gets kidnapped by the good guys who want him to help them find some mastermind criminal. So far it”s not too bad. Then we have the BBQ where a very cliched woman tries to set Gru up with her friends. Cue sexuality (hair flinging, hip swinging, provocatively dressed neighbour) showing him her equally cliched friends. (Oh, and the movie starts with two MEN – not kids – gambling for money). Then the movie deviates into a romance. Gru”s kids try to set him up with dates because they want a mother and the spy (beautifully voiced by Kristen Wiig) has the hots for Gru.  Which reminds me that one of the minions has the hots for her and we see his thoughts about what he would like to be doing with her which my daughter later asked me to clarify because she couldn”t understand why it had interrupted the story line to show it.  Gru has a date during the film with the worst kind of female cliche who is then tasered by his real love interest and carried out of the restaurant between the two of them in a drunken parody you would expect to find in a frat boys movie. The stern policeman was there and all. Later Gru treats everyone badly when Lucy (the love interest) leaves and disolves into a pathetically cliched mess of the commitment phobic male.  Oh, and to round out the cliches we have the teenage daughter taking her iPhone to bed (one of the issues in our society for those without teenagers is that teens have their electronic media on them 24/7 and are incredibly sleep deprived because they stay on these devices late at night. There are so many things wrong with this practice – overstimulation being just one – this will have to be another post) and then meets the quintessential badboy who cheats on her in the end! Now am I the only person who sees that this is not a film for children under 13? And yet the cinema was full of primary school aged children – three of whom were mine. My boys thought it was okay and that is because to make the film more kid-like the writer and director intersperse the minions in the highly adult scenes and then usually have someone hit over the head or falling off something high. But for all that the only real laughs in the cinema were adult sniggering. Honestly, I tuned into the laugh factor from the kids because I wanted to see if I was completely off base...

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The Most Expensive Lie of All

Posted by on Jun 6, 2013 in Books | Comments Off on The Most Expensive Lie of All

The Most Expensive Lie of All

Winning at all costs? Shameless Cruz Rodriguez swapped the polo field for the boardroom eight years ago, where his killer instincts made him a phenomenally wealthy man. But there’s a hitch in his latest deal—in the sultry form of Aspen Carmichael… Champion horse breeder Aspen has never forgotten Cruz—their searing encounter was the one pleasure in her increasingly desperate life. So when darkly handsome Cruz reappears with a multimillion-dollar investment offer, Aspen is torn. She may crave his touch, but beneath his glittering black eyes lies a deception that could prove more costly than ever before! Order on Amazon Read an unedited extract from Chapter One ‘Eight three, my serve.’ Cruz Rodriguez Sanchez, self-made billionaire and one of the most formidable sportsmen to ever grace the polo field let his squash racquet drop to his side and stared at his opponent incredulously. ‘Rubbish! That was a let. And it’s eight three my way.’ ‘No way, tio! That was my point.’ Cruz eye-balled his brother as Ricardo prepared to serve. They might only be playing a friendly game of squash but “friendly” was a relative term between competing brothers. ‘Cheats always get their just desserts you know,’ Cruz drawled, moving to the opposite square. Ricardo grinned. ‘You can’t win every time, mi amigo.’ Maybe not, Cruz thought, but he couldn’t remember the last time he’d lost. Oh, yeah, actually, he could because his lawyer was in the process of righting that particular wrong while he blew off steam with his brother at their regular catch up session. Feeling pumped he correctly anticipated Ricardo’s attempted “kill shot” and slashed back a return that his brother had no chance of reaching. Not that he didn’t try. His runners squeaking across the resin coated floor as he lunged for the ball and missed. ‘Chingada madre!’ ‘Now, now,’ Cruz mocked. ‘That would be nine three. My serve.’ ‘That’s just showing off,’ Ricardo grumbled, picking himself up and swiping at the sweat on his brow with his wrist band. Cruz shook his head. ‘You know what they say? If you can’t stand the heat…’ ‘Too much talking, la figura.’ ‘Good to see you know your place.’ He flashed his brother a lazy smile as he prepared to serve. ‘El pequeno.’ Ricardo rolled his eyes, flipped him the bird and bunkered down, determination etched all over his face. But Cruz was in his zone and when Ricardo flicked his wrist and sent the ball barrelling on a collision course with Cruz’s right cheekbone he adjusted his body with graceful agility and sent the ball ricocheting around the court. Not bothering to pick himself up off the floor this time, Ricardo lay there, mentally tracking the trajectory of the ball and shook his head. ‘That’s just unfair. Squash isn’t even your game.’ ‘True.’ Polo had been his game. Years ago. Wiping sweat from his face Cruz reached into his gym bag and tossed his brother a bottle of water. Ricardo sat on his haunches and guzzled it. ‘You know I let you win these little contests between us because you’re unbearable to be around when you lose,’ he advised. Cruz grinned down at him. He couldn’t dispute him. It was a celebrated fact that professional sportsmen were very poor losers and while he hadn’t played professional polo...

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Goodreads giveaway – 27th May, 2013

Posted by on May 27, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

Just got a delivery today of my next book! Yay. I”m giving away 4 copies on the Goodreads site. Here”s the link for those interested. http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17382861-duty-at-what-cost Also went furniture shopping today with a friend which was loads of fun and boy – how expensive is furniture!! Eight thousand for a table… I”m thinking I might strip my old one back. I like the idea of recycling anyway and that”s a pretty Bortsett fra en glimrende support vil du finne det beste av spilleautomater og dessuten er det mange artige konkurranser a bli med pa hvis du onsker!Klikk her for a registrere deg og fa en fantastisk forste innskuddsbonus sammen med 10 gratis spins!Det er veldig viktig a huske pa de tingene vi har nevnt nar det kommer til a velge spilleautomater pa nett. good incentive. Thankfully I didn”t go shopping Friday night after handing in my latest ms to my editor. I was on such a high I probably would have ordered two. As it was I flirted shamelessly with the Harvey Norman”s shop assistant who sold me an “Animal” – no, not something to take to bed! – but an upright vaccuum cleaner for those spot cleaning days. I only spent $300 more on that than I thought I would… So, no more shopping after finishing a novel for...

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Pooped! 11/5/2013

Posted by on May 14, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

So up to last night I was giving up writing. Today I went shopping, read a Vanity Fair while having my hair cut and have started my next book. So I feel on top of the world again. Of course I haven”t finished the “old” book yet. I rang my editor last night pathetically begging her to read the mess of a ms and give me some direction. Each novel seems to have its own challenges, although Book three was a dream run. My husband – an actuary by trade – pointed out this is what is called an outlier. Yeah, whatever!  But I am waiting for that dream book that just rolls straight off the keyboard and into the book store. One shot. Straight up. Done. Who said I didn”t have an over active imagination? And now I am writing a continuity for Harlequin. I am so excited. I get to work with other authors and create a story from Satoshi Live becomes the planet&#8217s first fully-live Bitcoin online casino You understood time it was coming when gambling online could be hitching its lot around the growing recognition of Bitcoins. a Bible the editors have constructed. I leapt at the chance to do it when they asked. It”s like a dream. After that I think I might tackle a kid”s book. My kids are hassling me for one and I”ve had two ideas in my head since the dawn of time so it might be time to bring at least one of those to fruition. Oh, and I started the day with an old movie. My husband took the kids to school and I sat down in front of the computer (thank you itunes) to watch Rich and Famous. About two women who are friends and authors. Candace Bergan and Jaqueline Bissett – what”s not to love about that. It was a sensational day all up. Now I have 1000 words to write and I”ve done about 50. Come on muse, let”s get to...

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Our new kitten – 19th April, 2013

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Our new kitten – 19th April, 2013

What is it about kittens that make them so cute? We have a new one – a Tonkinese – and she is adorable. Unfortunately , our twelve year old Siamese is not of the same mindset as us. She can’t stand the new addition but the funny thing is watching the tiny kitten chase the big old Siamese around the house. If the lovely Ferdy would just stand up the little minx then they might become friends. But the little Tonk is starting to love her sense of power…  and it’s going to her head, I can tell! Here’s a pic of her sitting on my daughter’s lap while she reads Enid Blyton – and old...

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Finding Joe – 28th March

Posted by on Mar 28, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

Saw this film a couple of weeks ago and it stayed with me so I thought I’d share. I love Joseph Campbell’s work and this is a movie based on The Hero’s Journey. It’s about following your bliss and there are some wonderful life lessons in it. http://findingjoethemovie.com/ On another note it is EASTER! Yay. I love Easter almost more than Christmas and have such fond memories of the Dahlia and Arts Festival in my home town of Eaglehawk and the amazing decorated floats and the Chinese dragon that is unleashed at the end of the Easter parade. I’m not a traditionalist by any sense, but there is something comforting about the certainty behind ceremonies and repeated events that occur throughout our lives. Usually our Easter is spent at the beach and we wake up on Easter morning to see what the Easter bunny has delivered. It is the only morning – other than Christmas – that the kids can wake up and eat what they like and oh, do they love that! It does my head in of course, but no moreso than the piles of chocolate that is painstakingly counted and accounted for in their bowls that seems to last for WEEKS on end.  I try not to go all Hitler on them but it is a struggle when finally I say “every day? It’s not good for you!’  This year though we are housebound because we must take care of our baby kitten! A gorgeous donkey-grey Tonkinese – photo to come when my computer isn’t playing up – called Gypsy. She has just settled and as we are moving house in two weeks we thought it would be a bit much to unsettle her by going away. But I wish everyone a happy Easter time whereever you are and whether you celebrate it or not. Often there are holidays around this time so that warrants a smile at the very least. Enjoy!...

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Yikes! 21st March, 2013

Posted by on Mar 21, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

I have been woefully absent here! And with no real excuse up my sleeve other than I’ve been writing and mothering and project managing our house renovations and living. Out of those four, anyone who knows me would tell you that the house renovations takes up less than .1% of my week – but I needed a filler!!  I am the perfect builder’s dream client. I turn up periodically to check what is happening, I agree with everything he does and smile a lot. It helps that I know he’s a fantastic builder and is doing a stunning job (treating our home as if it were his own) and that I have no spatial capacity whatsoever. Just the other day he started explaining the kitchen to me and when he asked a question I realised I had completely zoned out and was listening to my characters. ‘Cupboards or drawers?’ Am I really supposed to know the answer to that? On other news I am deeply into book five which is based around the game of Polo. I am a horse person. As in I LOVE horses and the main character – the dashing Cruz Rodriquez – came to me basically fully formed. A strong, sexy Mexican who has been betrayed one too many times in his life, he is set on buying a property our heroine, Aspen Carmichael, is desperate not to sell! So far it’s been a joy to write and the research has been fantasic. I’ve never watched a live game of polo before and after receiving a lesson from an international player I think I am in love. With him AND the sport! His wife and son are pretty gorgeous as well! Oh, and my editor has asked if I would like to be involved ina Modern continuity! I devoured the Wolfe and Santina continuities so am beyond excited at the prospect. Stay tuned and I’ll let you know as soon as it is all finalised! Now, it’s back to Cruz and Aspen in the...

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11th February 2013

Posted by on Feb 11, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

So I’ve been reading and planning book five and I feel a bit stuck. I have at least six romance ideas that should make a good Presents book vying for my attention, a children’s book, a women’s fiction novel, and two screenplays all sitting with crossed legs and quivering arm shooting to the ceiling like eager prep children all saying “pick me, pick me”.  It’s not easy because I know I have to commit a couple of months to one of these and I don’t want to shift the others aside. But today is D-Day. I’ve put all my voices on high alert. It’s time to decide. I feel like a lot of my little ducks (children, house renovations, school commitments – I am canteen mum this year, yikes! – husband, friendships) have been put in a scheduled row and I can clear my mind to return to creating. And boy do I miss it. I LOVE getting into the flow of a story. My only wish – with all these super keen voices in my head – is that I could either write by osmosis, or faster. In a lot of ways I am still finding my voice as a writer and I wonder if I’ll ever really understand what that looks like. In my mind it will be one of those lightbulb moments at which time I’ll say something like ‘Oh, that’s my process, that’s what I love to write” and then everything will become significantly easier and I’ll pump out a book a month that requires no revising at all… I am a dreamer after all!  However, since that lightbulb moment has not switched on today it might be time to stop vascilating by searching the internet for movies that I simply must see while the kids are in school and JUST CHOOSE BOOK FIVE. Stay tuned for later in the week when I reveal whose story I will be writing next and post an excerpt of Wolfe and Ava’s bodyguard...

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